Stimulating the clitoris with different things

All products featured on Glamour are independently selected by our editors. However, when you buy something through our retail links, we may earn an affiliate commission. For most women, ground zero for sexual pleasure is rooted in the clitoris. In my new Glamour column, Ask Dr. Being able to experience and savor pleasure not only feels good, but is key to physical, emotional, and sexual well-being.

The clitoris has 8, nerve endings in the tip alone, making it the ultimate pleasure spot. For as long as science has been aware of the clitoris, it has been the subject of much scrutiny, confusion, and dismissal. And that pleasure part is key. Casey Tanner , certified sex therapist and an expert for sex toy company LELO , which recently partnered with BlackBook on the book A Woman's Right To Pleasure , explains that the clitoris is the only genital organ that functions solely for sexual satisfaction as opposed to reproduction. And while you might think of clitoral and vaginal orgasms as two different things, we now know that what most of us think of the clitoris is actually just the external tip of the iceberg — the clitoris continues inside of the body, too. Here, the best ways to stimulate the clitoris on your own or with a partner, according to Tanner and other sex experts.

When it comes to the clitoris, that old saying "different strokes for different folks" has never been more true. There's really not one standard type of stimulation that works for all women," says Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist and the creator of Finishing School , an online orgasm course for women. And, considering orgasms aren't even on the table for many women without some clit play, figuring out what makes you tick is pretty important.

But knowing that you should stimulate the clit is one thing. Actually knowing how to do it is another. So, to help you out on the path to clitoral enlightenment, we spoke to Mia Sabat, the in-house sex therapist at Emjoy, to get the lowdown on everything you need to know. You really do just need to have a look, have a feel, and pay attention rather than haphazardly rubbing a random spot and hoping for the best.